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Midlife Love Bytes! | Relationship | Insight | Psychology | Healthy Love | Transition

Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC

Beth Luwandi, LPC, shares: psychology wisdom; attraction, connection, and relationship hacks; and stories from the trenches. Answering your burning questions about finding a mate, midlife sex, and making relationship work, she also hosts experts, specialists and your successful peers. For Smart and Sassy women and Genuine Good Guys age 35 and better. You've been successful in other areas. Find the support, guidance, and shifts that work to help you create and enjoy the best love of your life!

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Jan 25, 2017 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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A follow-up from the Midlife Dating 101, 2017 Seminar in Cincinnati, Beth talks about Attraction, communication rules and progression, dating in midlife for optimum health (and avoiding pain,) the communion of love and loss, and seven fabulous dating tips that will serve you well! Want the full show notes (as a supplement or to READ instead of listen?) Find them at www.midlifelovebytes.com and look for episode 27.
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Dec 20, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Men and Women (and different personality types) deal with heartache in various ways. Beth shares the best answers for how long it takes to heal after divorce or a break-up. She covers a list of sure-fire ways to make it worse. Of course, she finishes with a list of 13 specific ways to heal as quickly and thoroughly as possible. Don’t spend time asking the hard Why and What questions. Substitute instead the questions you can actually get helpful information on. How do I get through this? How...
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Dec 13, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Infidelity can rock your world like nothing else. Recovering and even saving the relationship IS possible.  Anne Goshen, LCSW, PhD,  psychotherapist practicing in San Diego, California outline's the Gottman Institutes phases of recovery. How this issue gets addressed can truly be the make or break in your healing. Beth brings a Burning Question at about 17:00 regarding when things get mighty messy and some form of retaliation enters the situation. Join us!   Link to resources and complete...
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Nov 17, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Married? In a relationship, alone, or any description in between? Is love hard? Question your limiting beliefs. Burning Question: 38 year old man, together with his wife for eight years asks Why is it so hard to have a good relationship? Beth takes you through a process of examining and questioning what you believe about love and relationships including the common beliefs that relationships are hard, take a lot of work, and require compromise. You just might be surprised by how easily you can...
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Nov 10, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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For single Smart and Sassy Women and Genuine Good Guys. Recorded in mid-October, Beth gives a list of great resources you can check out. She summarizes from several online articles. Beth takes a light survey of popular publications and their ideas for how YOU can get through until late February. You might find some good ideas! And the list might just be fun, no matter what. Glamour, PsychCentral, Huffington Post LonerWolf blog, Match.com single person’s holiday survival guide. complete show...
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Oct 19, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Beth Luwandi LPC outlines how to handle the holidays when you’re single. She goes over tips on how to handle it, how to talk about it and who to talk to about it. Beth gives examples for different ways to make the experience better for yourself including feeling your feelings, telling the truth about those feelings with the right people, and exploring your options. Don’t make it worse for yourself. Beth gives tips on how to avoid the stuff that makes it all worse and how to make it a little...
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Oct 12, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Dr. Nazanin Moali, licensed psychologist practicing in southern California talks about the tenets of healthy sexuality, what is at the root of many sexual issues, changes in libido as we age, and knowing when it’s time to get professional help. Burning question comes from a 52-year old woman with grown sons in their early 20’s who was suddenly widowed about a year ago. She wants to know how to approach her desire for sex after a long, frequent, satisfying sex life in her marriage. You’ll...
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Oct 7, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC practicing in Cincinnati, outlines the differences between red and pink flags in relationship or connection and what to do when you encounter them. She explores why there is no such thing as a yellow flag in relationship or new connection or even in long-term or committed relationship. Beth uses a story intro featuring a very attractive, high maintenance woman paired with a man to demonstrate how outside perspective evaluating couples does not always hold.  Like a...
Psychologist Melvin Varghese, PhD, founder and host of the podcast, Selling the Couch defines perfectionism, fear, and resilience as it shows up in relationships. Beth and Melvin explore the good and bad sides, the way we navigate in life and relationship and then dive into the balance with work as well. It’s a great conversation for successful, intelligent, driven people (like you.) Complete show notes at www.midlifelovebytes.com More about Melvin and Selling the Couch at...
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Aug 25, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Beth and Beth Franchini talk Brene Brown’s research on shame, shame resilience, and what to do with this intense, burning feeling in the context of relationship. Beth Franchini explores how disconnecting, fear of losing connection, and believing we’re unworthy of love and belonging are at the core of shame.  She differentiates between guilt, embarrassment, humiliation, and SHAME which says, “I’m bad.” This is the stuff we don’t want to talk about at all and includes a deep-seated...
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Aug 20, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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In this episode, Beth answers several related Burning Questions that have come in. You may have some of the same questions and the answers just might be surprisingly simple. First,Beth reviews the overarching framework to her Dating, Mating, & Relating Coaching: Preparation: preparing yourself for good relationship Attraction: knowing how it works Connection: doing what works to get you connected Evaluation: being able to look at this fairly and make decisions Relationship: making very...
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Jul 12, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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It's not a scandal; it's NORMAL! Learn how the psychosocial navigation of midlife is just a life passage affecting every single one of us. According to Erik Erickson, it occurs between the ages of 34 and 60 and includes four objectives Beth covers as we navigate the polarities of Generativity and Stagnation. Learn how central personality questions help to complicate the process and how they can be a key to helping you decide between RED flags (or deal-breakers) and PINK flags (your internal...
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Jun 9, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Hear the why and how behind the Rules for a Cooperative Divorce. These Rules (compiled by Boyan & Termini and part of their Cooperative Parenting Institute) were written by a teen whose parents divorced but apply for children of divorced parents of ALL ages, even adults. Beth expands on the Rules and of course, shares personal examples.
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May 12, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Beth Luwandi, LPC speaks with Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R, Relationship Therapist and creator of Connectfulness. Find out more at www.connectfulness.com. Learn more about relationship issues including empathy, connection, conflict, and asking for what we need. Rebecca introduces Relationship Reboot, her upcoming email program designed to recharge you in the areas of energy, money, and time. Developed in collaboration with a yoga instructor and a financial planner, Rebecca adds her expertise in...
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Apr 28, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Are those deal breakers in you marriage, relationship, connection, or date selection? Beth takes a deep look at Bert Adams' 1986 research-based triangle of the Five Phases of Mate Selection in the US and how the common, normal sense, acceptance, and structure of coupling can be a comfort AND a guide no matter what your situation. Includes a definition of red versus pink flags. Pay attention to both, but in different ways! Answering the burning question from Sarah: How do I know if this man is...
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Apr 21, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Round two For Men ONLY dedicated to helping dating men find quality (read HOT, eligible, interested) women. Beth lists more than 20 fantastic places to rub shoulders with HER. Explore the fantasy floating around in your psyche and take the cautionary advice for succeeding when you see her. Now available on Google Play Music. Subscribe there, at Stitcher, or on iTunes where you can Rate and Review (i.e.leave your love note!) Additional show notes available at Midlifelovebytes.com
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Apr 12, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Perspective on choosing your kids over your mate and vice versa. Carla Seemann, LPCC-S, shares her wisdom from 27 years working with children and their families in all stages of change and adaptation. What do you do if your kids hate your new mate? Are you choosing the kids and sacrificing an intimate relationship? People ask this in nuclear families and long-term marriages too. What is the healthiest way to help, even your grown children, adjust to a change in the family configuration? How,...
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Apr 7, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Love can take a bite out of you no matter what your history or current status! Just because you’ve been through this before does not mean you are immune to the accompanying fear when risking in love. Beth takes you through three reminders on how to avoid heartache and three tips for dealing with heartbreak after the fact. Read the complete show notes at midlifelovebytes.com. Become part of the community and discussion on facebook: Midlife Love Bytes.Subscribe and leave a "love note"...
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Mar 29, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Loneliness strikes in relationship and during singleness. Empty nest, divorce, the cold of Minnesota winter, foreclosure, and no dog conspire to create the most desolate lonely of Beth's life. Hear the story and explore the psychology behind coping mechanisms, (learn why alcohol is a poor one and cigarettes are more effective) and discover how Zumba and dancing at Zorba's on Gull Lake may have been a life line during this darkest winter. Maybe you can relate to how "right thought" and...
Beth talks with John Harrison, LPCC as he shares the real-life adventure of 40 days of meditation. Learn how establishing this relationship with self sets the stage for great relationship with others. John tells it realistically: the struggles, the challenges, the inner chatter, (also known as "monkey mind") during his practice of meditation. He introduces his Intuition Coaching, designed to get people in touch with their own inner GPS, to help guide them toward the good life and good...
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Mar 15, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Wonder why your communication breaks down in your intimate and close relationships? Learn how the common text and subtext of so much of human talking makes it so hard to establish and maintain a sense of empathy and closeness. Beth presents her trademarked formula: Clean, Non-Blaming communication or CNBC, explaining how this four-step process helps you strengthen your parasympathetic nervous system. It can shift relationship, invite both participants into responsibility, and does it with...
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Mar 10, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC explores the complex relationship between love and loss. After enduring significant grief, one's ability and willingness to love is altered permanently. She tells the very personal story of losing her closest sister and how it impacted her willingness and ability to love and what events marked her healing. Punctuated with four music tracks from her sister, Mary Lofstrom, jazz vocalist and founder of Shimmering Fishbelly Music (here used by permission) this weaving...
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Mar 4, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Beth Luwandi LPC and Stephen J Billmann, PsyD, D,ABSM have a conversation about the relationship of sleep, sex, and love. Cincinnati's ONLY Board-Certified Sleep Psychologist for adults, Steve shares answers to dilemmas of how sleep changes (or doesn't) as we get a little older, negotiate with a partner, and mindfully accept reality. His treatment for insomnia is evidence-based, medication-free, and won't ruin your relationship! Like Beth's Dating, Mating, and Relating specialty for couples and...
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Mar 1, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Learn how to make attraction work for you. Beth outlines the psychology behind what men find attractive. More than the beauty ideal, learn what he really thinks of your body and what traits of emotional maturity he values most. Beth reveals the one very common "good thing" good women routinely do to mess up their love relationships and drive good men away. It can lead to divorce and enormous heartache. Thankfully also included is the solution that makes good love possible. Burning...
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Feb 25, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Beth shares three crucial secrets of the female psyche that will give you understanding to get leverage in dating, mating, and relating. Burning Question answered about why women just want the Bad Boy. Real communication and relationship hacks to please your woman.
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Feb 12, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Beth Luwandi, LPC outlines why and how to use online dating and your profile to make quality connections with relationship-minded candidates. What to avoid. What to do now! Write an effective, attractive profile. Use your photos to further your message. Burning question from a woman wondering about maintaining multiple connections and when to take the profile down. Specific guide to crafting online dating profile content.
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Feb 12, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Introducing: wisdom in midlife dating, mating, & relating by Beth Luwandi, Licensed Professional Counselor and Life Coach in Cincinnati, Ohio. It's all about having the best love of your life NOW...even if you've been married for a long time. We'll cover attraction, connection, and relationship. Other topics include: online dating, healthy sex and love, blending families, spicing things up, effective communication, real attraction, healing and preventing heartache plus more. Lots of great...
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Feb 12, 2016 Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, LPC
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Beth Luwandi LPC takes you through first steps to successful midlife dating and relating. Examine silly notions about romance and love, stop asking stupid questions and replace them with helpful, productive ones. Clarify what you want in order to begin looking for it. Burning question from a man asking about dating younger women or someone in his same life stage.